Wednesday, March 4, 2015

The opposite of Love.

Of course I am going to blog about it.

The opposite of love, is fear. And today, I'm letting fear win.

We are taught all our lives that love is conditional. That people will only love you if you act a certain way. Everyone from your parents to your teachers tell you that you are desirable if you do the right things and less so if you don't.

So obviously when you're interacting with other human beings who are full of doubt just like yourself, you are subject to their pre-set conditions as well. We can never trust them fully when they say they will never leave you. Because human experience says other wise.
It is why humans love, then destroy then love again. Because we need to know that even after we have destroyed something it will come back and love us. Love sponsors fear sponsors love sponsors fear...

.... and so in the moment you pledge your highest love, you greet your greatest fear.

For the first thing you worry about after saying I Love You is whether you you will hear it back. And if you hear it back, then you begin immediately to worry that the love that you have just found, you will lose. And so all action becomes a reaction - defense against loss.

I hope that one day, I have the courage to let love win. 

1 comment:

  1. Beautiful post Tanya. Can relate to it. Reminds me of a quote from The War of Art, a book by Steven Pressfield. "Most of us have two lives. The life we live, and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands resistance."